Meeting the same people and not recognizing them in the new flesh is toxic AF. Knowing that you are insecure, anxious, and shame spiraling too often but doing nothing to shift that reality is toxic AF. Nurturing a relationship that harms you for the sake of belonging or family politics is toxic AF.
We are all on the path. All the healing is real. We can bravely look at current behaviors, choices, and values to and acknowledge what is toxic AF or helpful for healing. According to Tracey at haveawordwithyourself.co.uk, not all people in recovery do the work correctly or consistently, so navigating friendships in recovery and learning to let go helps us name toxic ways of showing up, and helps each of us take ownership for avoiding toxic vortexes.
Meisha at growURpotential.org encourages us to see relationships as an invitation to evolve on purpose, to move at the speed of trust. “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime,” this sage knowing by Brian A. “Drew” Chalker is not isolated wisdom, not all relationships are meant to bloom into lifetime connections.
Each of us is responsible to sort out our own garden with confidence. The sober police, the hallway monitors, the shame'ers and blamers, and the folx with that branch in their own eye all deserve reminders: stay in your own lane. The healing journey is personal, individual, and care partners are chosen, not mandated. Unsolicited advice is harmful, and when someone believes in you, they will support you, trusting your innate wisdom.
Read more, self-talk less. Amplify you with mentorship and therapy from sources that grow your inner confidence, autonomy, and power. Connect with others who trust being toxic AF ain't cute. We invite healers to join our network of Healing Justice Warriors.
Healing your brain when it comes to depression, anxiety, trauma, or addiction is a complex and challenging process. When people say "Can't you just blah blah blah?" you know that they are lost in a land of lah lah lah. All emotional issues represent brain adaptations, and to heal the brain takes time.
It's hard and uncomplicated. Both physical and psychological habits start in the brain and show up in behavior. These are the cornerstones that allow us to embrace new habits and ways of showing up in the world, otherwise known as THE WORK:
Name the Problem: The first step in addressing any issue is acknowledging that you have a problem. Denial is a common barrier to healing and stories that minimize toxic behavior is the worst lie anyone can tell themselves. Figure out how to be honest alongside people who have learned how to be honest. Harm reduction spaces are real and empowering.
Create Accountability Partnerships: Emotional and Substance issues often require professional treatment, just like medical conditions. The right healthcare provider, therapist, or counselor can help create a personalized treatment plan with you. If you don't have a plan a goal is not likely to be accomplished. Plan simple. Plan short consistent steps within a CARE Partnership.
Invest in Self-Compassion: Being kind to yourself throughout the process is critical. Holding a healthy diet of content related to self-compassion is what makes the difference between progress and a relapse. Resilience means progress can happen after relapse.
Join A Support Group: Building a support network is crucial for real change. You need other humans you trust to reflect with, who listen and encourage you. This looks like AA, Healing Circles, or gatherings with others for the purpose of healing. Surrounding yourself with people who understand and support your mental fitness is essential.
Plant Medicine, Pharmacology, and Light Therapy: In some cases, biological support is needed to alter brain chemistry and when you understand the options you make better choices for yourself. Emotional suffering is a direct consequence of chemical imbalance and sometimes we deserve biological interventions to help us achieve our mental fitness goals.
Develop Coping Skills: Learn healthy coping strategies to deal with stress, triggers, and Clean Pain Activities. This might include mindfulness, stress management workgroups, or engaging in activities that provide a sense of fulfillment or self-love alongside others on the same quest.
At growURpotential.org we are certain that everybody is capable of healing. We trust that all healing journeys are unique, one size does not fit all. We train our team to support your unique journey, and it will take time so we invite you to move at the pace that fits you.
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